Marilyn Mars Ministries Of Restoration
Men Pursuing Wisdom
Men Pursuing Wisdom
I had once listen to a sermon by pastor and writer, Tony Evans, where he said…
- As the man goes, so goes the family
- As the family goes, so goes the church
- As the church goes, so goes the community
- As the community goes, so goes the city
- As the city goes, so goes the state, then nation, and finally the world.
These statement I believe has some spiritual connotation to it. It is a reflection of the impact that the wisdom
of man has on the entire world, whatever the man does control the world system.
It was the intention of God when he made man, that he should be the foundation of the family that is why in the book of Genesis, chapter 1:26 God created the man first so that he can be responsible for everything that was created, he was to be the manager; for when there is no management or poor management growth is retarded. In Genesis Chapter 2:5, we see God after He finished creating the earth saw that there was no man to manage, so He decided to create man so that he can be the manager of earth's resources.
However as we look around in the world today we see so much evidence of the mismanaging of the resources of God by men due to unrighteousness acts, which resulted in so much pain, poverty and suffering. Unless man is restored in his righteousness, gets back in alignment with his true and divine role, and acquire and acts from the wisdom of God, he will not be truly effective as a steward of the resources of the world.
We can ask for wisdom,God is wiling to give such wisdom, knowledge, discernment, depth of insight, etc., but let us not ask only for the asking because we want it, just to to say we have it, as we will not receive these graces without active participation on our part. We must have a desire to abide or remain in him and his words will abide in us (John 15), his words must dwell in us richly (Col 3:16). Then the transformation begins.
The Purpose of the Male
The Purpose of the Male
God's strategy was to rule everything that he had created on earth through the human family. And the person that he place to be the head of the family is the male.
The man is supposed to :
Stay in God's presence: He is supposed to meditate on the word of God's everyday in order to gain direction on how to manage himself and his family. Read, understand, seeking purpose and being taught from the word of God should be one of his primary focus.
Work: The first activity that God give to man to do after the earth was created is work. Genesis 2:15.
Work was given to man so that he can discover, become, find fulfillment, and become who he was created to be through self manifestation. Work is the manifestation of his inborn skills and talents. Whatever was given to him, he was suppose to creatively multiply, and earn monetarily from it to meet the needs of himself and family.
Work was given to man to do and realize before God decided to give the man a woman. Man must have a vision for his life before he should ever seek to marry or have a woman, because a woman comes into a
man's life to fulfill her purpose as help meet, she was created to help the male in the manifestation of his vision, help him to do his work. She comes equipped, was created by God with all the intelligence, wisdom, and knowledge needed to help the male. If the man has no work, what is there for the woman to do.
If he has no vision what is there for her to follow.
That is why a woman becomes frustrated when she encounter a man who has no work, no assignment, no plan, no vision for her to work along with. Often times in absence of a man's vision, the woman will go
about to pursue her own vision and this brings a lot of disgruntle feeling from the man, but he need only
blame himself and not the woman. The man had nothing for her to do, that is why he often times finds her annoying when she starts to question him and talk too much, asking him about his intentions.
I have watched too many men demand that their wives go out and be the primary breadwinner, while they lay back. To me, that is a opt-out. Many also has refused to go out an find a job, so the woman has to.
It multiplies stress in an already-stressed families and leaves too many children to parent themselves.
Too many men are gripped with an unrelenting fear when it comes to being the breadwinner of the family,
and I am somewhat convinced that the root cause is spiritual. Fear has struck,and resided in the hearts
of men and has handicapped them from having the power to responsibly provide for their families.
Many women and children has suffered as a result, being deprived of many basic needs.
Cultivate, guard and protect: When God placed Adam in the Garden of Eden, his job was to cultivate or develop, keep watch and protect everything entrusted to him from the devil's deception. Adam's role back
then is man's role today. Men need to protect their "garden" from the lie, deceptions, dark acts,
and destructive works propagated in society today. The personal garden of the man, can be understood as wherever God has assigned him to live, work, and play. The people who inhabit the garden, especially the women and children entrusted to the man's leadership, are his responsibility to protect. Men do not shun
your responsibility to protect those under your care, stand up.
Many children has been bullied in school because they were unprotected by their own fathers, the honor of many daughters were trampled upon because the fathers failed to protect them, many women also were dishonored because the man fail to protect. A society in which men has fail to stand up and offer protection
is a society of aggression, crime, and hate. If men would only use their God-given ability as protectors, especially in the family, they would be able to turn the things around and bring a sense of safety that everybody needs, beginning first in the family then into the communities and the world at large
the bullies will have to stop bulling and the bullied will no longer have to suffer, thus all will benefit.
Keep God's commandments - teach from his word: The man was given the commission to be the
overseer, teacher of his family. In order for him to be effective in doing this, he himself must be taught, he must understanding the word of God, and understand the life application of the word, it order for him to teach his family. He must diligently seek God's will through meditation and prayers so that his understanding will be enlighten. After which he must life a live of example, demonstrating those godly principles that he would like
to see emulated in his family.
Seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be dded unto you” (Matthew 6:33 KJV).
And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thine heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might. And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: and thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down,and when thou risest up” (Deuteronomy 6:5-7 KJV).
Praise is more that mere words spoken from the lips of men, but it is a heart felt response to God for keeping us in his grace and favor. In our homes and our churches we need to see more men leading the way
- praising God. When the head of the family (the male) does this, it is so really commendable and honorable.
Responsibility: Men you are responsible to yourself first to have the right attitudes and mind set before you can ever think about taking up the responsibility of husband or father. Boys cannot do man work., and they should not try to. When boys take up man role we find a lot of dysfunction in the family, because when the pressures of life start they often abandon and run away from their responsibility, they cannot stand.
Standing up as a man to your responsibility as husband and father takes a lot of strength, maturity and consistency. We need men who can speak up and stand up. Men who will be good providers for their family, serving them financially, emotionally, physically and spiritually. Men who will closely supervise the activities
of their children and provide enough parental interaction to address the positive or negative behavior and attitudes, and ensure that no serious incidents goes unnoticed.
Children need a father involvement in the area of disciple, we discover that in the homes where fathers were there and active in this responsibility there was a minimal of delinquent behavior. There are so many negative influences in the society today, in the media, television, and we really need the strength of the male to help keep the family stabilized.
Today it is so sad to say that we have a generation of men who are Adam look-alike. These are more interested in selfish satisfaction then the things that are destroying our children and our family, like the rise
of crime, more of our youths are going to jail, for crimes which they could have avoided if they were trained properly by the men in their lives. Many husbands and fathers watch their young daughters leave out of the home scantly dressed in the name of style and fashion, and say or do nothing about it. Many also watch their wives buy into false values of what beauty is. They stand silently by and watch their family view all kind of programs on the television that does not enhance righteous living.
Men were given the responsibility by God to proclaim and teach the truth, to help fill earth with culture of heaven, to teach kingdom principles to establish and uphold righteous living starting with his family -
that was his mandate.
When man fails in his responsibility he leaves a world wide open to the criminal and immoral ideologies consuming our culture and our world today. Man it is time to arise up into your role and speak up.
We desperately need you, men, to stand side by side with your woman and children in order to bring about
this restoration, that we all need this time in our world. There is hope if you could collectively build up courage, open your mouth speak up and proclaim biblical truths against all the criminal and immoral ideologies that we see spreading in the world today.
Bringing together men of all ages who are desirous in growing in relationship with God and coming in alignment with their divine purpose. Who are zealous in encouraging each other to be role models and leaders in the family, church and communities.
Intensifying Relationship With God
- Bible Studies
- Personal Consultations
- Prayer and Meditation
- Men Conferences
Intensifying Relationship With Each Other
- Group Activities
- Ministry Care
- Family Care
Intensifying Relationship With The World
- Community Service
- Youth Support
- Service First
Proverbs 1:1-33 The proverbs of Solomon the son of David, king of Israel;
2 To know wisdom and instruction; to perceive the words of understanding;
3 To receive the instruction of wisdom, justice, and judgment, and equity;
4 To give subtilty to the simple, to the young man knowledge and discretion.
5 A wise man will hear, and will increase learning; and a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsels:
6 To understand a proverb, and the interpretation; the words of the wise, and their dark sayings.
7 The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge: but fools despise wisdom and instruction.
8 My son, hear the instruction of thy father, and forsake not the law of thy mother:
9 For they shall be an ornament of grace unto thy head, and chains about thy neck
10 My son, if sinners entice thee, consent thou not.
11 If they say, Come with us, let us lay wait for blood, let us lurk privily for the innocent without cause:
12 Let us swallow them up alive as the grave; and whole, as those that go down into the pit:
13 We shall find all precious substance, we shall fill our houses with spoil:
14 Cast in thy lot among us; let us all have one purse:
15 My son, walk not thou in the way with them; refrain thy foot from their path:
16 For their feet run to evil, and make haste to shed blood.
17 Surely in vain the net is spread in the sight of any bird.
18 And they lay wait for their own blood; they lurk privily for their own lives.
19 So are the ways of every one that is greedy of gain; which takes away the life of the owners thereof.
20 Wisdom cries without; she utters her voice in the streets:
21 She cries in the chief place of concourse, in the openings of the gates: in the city she utters her words, saying,
22 How long, ye simple ones, will ye love simplicity? and the scorners delight in their scorning, and fools hate knowledge?
23 Turn you at my reproof: behold, I will pour out my spirit unto you, I will make known my words unto you.
24 Because I have called, and ye refused; I have stretched out my hand, and no man regarded;
25 But ye have set at nought all my counsel, and would none of my reproof:
26 I also will laugh at your calamity; I will mock when your fear comes;
27 When your fear comes as desolation, and your destruction comes as a whirlwind; when distress and anguish comes upon you.
28 Then shall they call upon me, but I will not answer; they shall seek me early, but they shall not find me:
29 For that they hated knowledge, and did not choose the fear of the Lord:
30 They would none of my counsel: they despised all my reproof.
31 Therefore shall they eat of the fruit of their own way, and be filled with their own devices.
32 For the turning away of the simple shall slay them, and the prosperity of fools shall destroy them.
33 But whoso hearkens unto me shall dwell safely, and shall be quiet from fear of evil.
Proverbs 24:3-7 By wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established; by knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches. A wise man is full of strength, and a man of knowledge enhances his might, for by wise guidance you can wage your war, and in abundance of counselors there is victory. Wisdom is too high for a fool; in the gate he does not open his mouth.
Jeremiah 1:5 If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him.
Proverbs 3:13-18 Blessed is the one who finds wisdom, and the one who gets understanding, for the gain from her is better than gain from silver and her profit better than gold. She is more precious than jewels, and nothing you desire can compare with her. Long life is in her right hand; in her left hand are riches and honor. Her ways are ways of pleasantness, and all her paths are peace. ...
Proverbs 12:15 The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice.
Male Role Modelling
Many young men today don't know what it really means to be a man because they don’t have a male father figure in their lives. Sadly, many children will go to bed tonight without saying goodnight to their father because he just isn’t there.
Nearly one-fourth of America’s children live in mother-only families.
Statistics has shown that of the children living
Statistics has shown that of the children living with their mothers, 35 percent never see their fathers and 24 percent see their fathers less than once a month.
More than likely, a woman teaches them at school and at home. So, where do they see and interact with positive male role models? So where do young men learn what it means to be a man? from Television? Movies? On the street?
Even in some homes where the father is present, research shows that the average father spends less than 10 minutes a day one-on-one with his child. In our society today, emotional and spiritual fatherlessness is becoming quite the norm. Many of today’s fathers did not have positive role models to show them how to be a father, so they are not there to show their children what it means to be a father.
No matter how great a mother is, she cannot replace what a father provides to a child. Irrefutable research shows that mothers are typically nurturing, soft, gentle, comforting, protective and emotional. Fathers tend to encourage risk-taking and to be challenging, prodding, loud, playful and physical. Children need a balance of protection and reasonable risk-taking. If a positive male role model isn't around, there is a void in a child's life. Children without positive male role models are more likely to be involved in criminal activity, premarital sexual activity, do poorer in school and participate in unhealthy activities.
Studies have also shown that involvement of a father or a positive male role model has profound effects on children. Father-child interaction promotes a child’s physical well-being, perceptual ability and competency for relating with others. Furthermore, these children demonstrate greater ability to take initiative and shows evidence self-control.
So how can you make a positive difference for these children?
- Men be a positive male role model, by having real involvement in your child's life.
- If you're a non-custodial dad, make the effort to visit with your children more often. You can also be very intentional about teaching them important life lessons.
- Fathers be more active in your child's classroom, in their education. Make visits to the school.
- You can also influence the lives of children in your community by being a positive male role model.
- Be a part of any Faith-based institutions and programs that help bring fathers together with their children and encourages male role models to engage children in their sphere of influence.